The Secret Ingredient
The older you get, the more experiences you have and the wiser you become. With these experiences come life lessons. Enter today’s two-part lesson: how to be more confident and love yourself. Because loving yourself is the first step towards building confidence, no matter what you want to believe. These tips and exercises I’m sharing will not only boost your confidence, but they will also help you learn to love yourself more and approach every day like the queen you are. Especially as women, we are constantly under the stress of not doing enough or doing too much. “Always put other people first!” It’s sad that we live in a society where taking time for ourselves and making sure we’re happy is frowned upon. Ladies: let’s work together to change this stigma.
Don’t Be Held Back
I’m one of those people that had to find my confidence and train myself to keep it. I’ve always had good self-esteem, but was very shy growing up until college where I learned to branch out and be comfortable in my own skin. I used to be SO scared to get up and walk to the pencil sharper, because of what I thought other people might think of me! How ridiculous is that?
A lack of confidence can hold you back from making connections with amazing people, enjoying experiences of a life time, and undermine your self-growth. Changing how you view yourself and practicing certain techniques will help in developing your confidence to the point where you won’t even have to think about it anymore. Ultimately you just have to be willing to get out of your comfort zone and put yourself in situations that might seem terrifying at first, but will offer an amazing outcome.
11 Ways to Be More Confident
1. Stop Judging Others
This is something you can start doing right now. Judgement is a personal choice and is ultimately a reflection of ourselves, not the other person. This especially applies to fashion and lifestyle choices and I personally am guilty of judging other women (and dudes too) for what they wore or chose to do with their lives. I got past that and it’s honestly the number one thing that’s made me a much more confident and happy person.
2. Stop Comparing
3. “Fake It Until You Make It”
4. Fix Your Body Language
6. Eat Well
7. Say Thank You When Someone Compliments You
Always embrace when someone says something nice to you about you. Never reply back with things like, “oh, I hate this top, I was late this morning and just threw it on.” or “Really? I thought my makeup looked really bad today.” Acknowledging nice comments with a simple thank you will make you appear confident and also make the person who said it feels good. Win-win!
8. Follow Your Intuition and Be Assertive
When something feels off, it probably is. Gut instinct is a superpower we all possess, some of us just don’t know how to use it yet. I always follow my intuition, especially in situations where I’m alone like walking at night or if a stranger starts talking to me. I can usually pick up a vibe and figure out if I should bolt or not. It’s okay to say no to someone or remove yourself from a situation if it doesn’t feel right.
9. Get More Organized
Being productive and clutter-free will give you a sense of accomplishment, which is a huge confidence booster. If you can tackle a huge to-do list, you can do anything, right? Confident people use planning tools such as agendas or programs to keep their day-to-day tasks in check and keep their work areas and home tidy. Mess=stress. Get rid of it.
10. Write a List of Your Strengths and Weaknesses
Wait Sheila, I get writing down my strengths, but my weaknesses? Girl, I’m trying to feel good about myself! Girl, I know! This is actually a great exercise to identify what you’re awesome at and what you need to improve on. It’s a soul-searching exercise that helps, trust me! Grab your Confidence Booster Worksheet down below to get started.
11. Know Your Worth
We are unique creatures with something special to offer the world. Don’t ever let anyone tell you otherwise. There is only one YOU. Am I sounding hella cheesy yet?
What makes you confident? I want you to share some of your best qualities in the comments and also be sure to grab your free worksheet with 5 exercises to start improving your confidence and self-love right now!
Here’s what makes me confident: wearing a killer outfit that makes me feel one hundred, finishing a super intense workout, and knowing that I can help just one person through my blog. Your turn.